Marriage was designed to be permanent. No one walks down the aisle with the goal of till seven years do us part. Unfortunately our mindset these days is not aligned with permanence but favours instant gratification and the pursuit of (fleeting) happiness, from one source to the next. As a result, many homes are built on sandy soil – vulnerable to changing (but forseeable) weathers and easily collapsible. We see this instability reflected in the increasing divorce rates all around the world and it just prompts one to make an attempt in figuring out what is going on.
These three walls are stopping you from cultivating a Quality Relationship. Break them down now! The love relationship is alike a road trip – a long journey with many turns and pit stops. In this journey you and your partner are bound to encounter a few (or many) bumps. The occasional quarrels are unavoidable. Seldom do we hear of couples whose journey is constantly smooth-riding without a tad of a knock. Yet it is often these ups and downs – falling and picking each other up – that strengthen the relationship and propels it to greater intimacy. However, when there are walls set up along this journey, their progress will be hindered. The wrecks and crashes that are bound to be suffered will inflict damages that can be as severe as to destroy the relationship.
So you have found the love of your life and every other person fades into the background when you are next to each other- maybe, at least in the stage of euphoria. Thankfully, the world continues revolving outside of our couple-dom and this world is as relevant to us as it has been since we first learnt our ABCs. With an updated status ‘(your name) is now in a relationship / engaged / married’, how do we remain relatable especially to the singles in our social circles? Here are four behaviours to avoid:
Singlehood – most will read this as the Searching Season, or commonly as the period for finding the Right One. Many hop from places to places, soliciting help from love gurus and even psychics. So much effort just to meet their Mister or Miss Right. Yet, the adage that everything will be bright and sunny once you find the Right One could very much be an urban legend. Very often, the supposedly right person may not appear, leaving the seeker quibbling about their wasted effort. Rather than putting in time and money into a random Search Operation akin to throwing the biggest net you have to catch any fish, why not focus your resources in building yourself, and be the Right person you desire? Be the Right One, and chances of attracting the Right One will be more likely. If you agree with me, here are five steps towards being the Right One:
All of us have experienced singlehood in our lives, though the span of time varies. Likely, we have experienced some form of yearning for companionship during singlehood or pangs of envy while being around sparkly-eyed lovers. Although these feelings are no doubt in existence and certainly not to be ashamed of, we have a choice to acknowledge it with optimism or to languish in bitterness and self-defeat. If you choose optimism, here are some grips to help keep you moving along the way:
How do you spell love? It seems absurd a question when you are already reading it on screen, but as real as it can get, it is also spelt as T-I-M-E. The ever elusive Time, which grows in sprint as we advance in age. Without purposeful management, much time is given to meaningless busyness that leaves vacuums in our lives. And there the love we share with our partner sits in the corner, with undetected coldness creeping on to it until it freezes over. No one desires for this to happen. What if there are warning signals waving for our attention along the route down to Antarctica? Watch out for these signals:
Being a husband is not a honorary title to achieve in life, but a lifelong expedition to learn, discover and uphold. It is a role which not only puts us in a position to receive plenty but one that also requires much of us. Here, we ask, how can we be a wise and loving husband that will bring out the best in our wife? What characteristics can we adopt to establish ourselves as the throne of our wife, allowing her to take her place as the crown of her man?
Ask anyone around you if they ever tire of receiving compliments, and I believe it would be a ‘no’. Ask again if their partner has complimented them at least once yesterday, if not the past week… or the past month?
Her husband says: “Many women have done wonderful things, but you’ve surpassed them all!”
A gift can speak volumes about how much you know your partner – or otherwise. Most of us have been both recipient and giver of a gift that conveys nothing apart from the object that it is.